Watching a Tennis Match
What a strange bunch of contrasts.
We took my youngest to the hospital for grunting-while-breathing, and within 24-hours after the IV antibiotics he was playing “Punch Out” with the Get Well balloon my parents brought him.
That hospital trip — like any other, I’m sure — moved from soul-sucking boredom to tearful panic. And during that ebb and flow, I got two emails. One explained what a rapturous “blessing” it was that God took me away from BJU since I could no longer ruin young lives like I had so clearly done for years. :/ The other email described an actual blessing — how God is using Elise’s little cherry dress to show a young, nearly-forgotten girl how much He loved her.
A lengthy conversation with a young man wrestling with his fundamentalist upbringing made me realize that fundamentalism doesn’t teach progressive justification (like Roman Catholicism). Nor does it teach progressive sanctification (which it ironically calls “perfectionism). It teaches a kind of perpetual justification. That you have to continually beg for salvation or risk certain doom.
I found last year’s Opening Evangelistic Service from BJU. Go listen to it. It’s a perfect encapsulation of everything Grant and I stood up against and were forced to resign over. It’s all right there. Nothing’s changed. I’m told that the dorm room leaders had to do damage control for months after that sermon.
And while I was still reeling over that slipshod retelling of the Prodigal Son parable, an old friend pointed me to WorldMag’s recent podcast on the same parable — “Becoming the Third Brother.” Listen to Marvin Olasky’s description of the Elder Brother in the second part. Sound familiar?
Of course, BJU got a mention in Forbes list of best colleges based on student satisfaction. #279. North Greenville is #154 and has record enrollment this year in this economy! GQ listed BJU, too, but for a more dubious honor.
I found this little chestnut — Stuff Fundies Like. Every post is brilliant and therapeutic and hilarious. I bet you can’t read just one!
I made a Facebook quiz “How Fundamentalist Are You?” I’m told it’s too feminine, and that’s probably true. It has one (pretty negative) review. Check it out too.
I’m on my second read through Steve Brown’s Scandalous Freedom. Here are the most important chapters for recovering fundamentalists. Take a look. And if listening is more your cup of tea, here are the podcasts. Just listen to the first one, if nothing else.
Yes, Steve Brown is the hero to every one of us still struggling in recovery. And then he goes and does something like this and shoves us into joyful and raucous laughter!
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Steve Brown? You rock. Really. Thank you!
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Comments
Great post. What a tennis match. Free at Last!
Posted by: Jamie Wise | September 1st, 2009 11:47
I have to second what you said about Stuff Fundies Like – VERY therapeutic (and you can’t beat free therapy!). I, too, also recently Scandalous Freedom and found it extremely helpful in rethinking those lingering bits of fundamentalist teaching that are still floating around my mind. Excellent book.
Posted by: Amanda | September 1st, 2009 20:27
I’m always eager to watch or play tennis matches. Just not this kind, as I don’t envy your week at all. But Steve Brown? Granted, I’m only 6 lectures in, but I love what I’m hearing.
Posted by: The Bard | September 1st, 2009 22:14
That BJU evangelistic service sermon: I just can’t listen. It’s like the severe allergy your IU classmate’s wife developed to latex over time due to repeated exposure. Just the sound of his voice and knowing what’s coming makes my soul gag and retch.
BLEAH.
Posted by: Grant | September 2nd, 2009 08:10
And as for your first idiot correspondent,
Researchers from the Carnegie Mellon University in Pittsburgh have found that people who respond to irritating, high-stress situations with some righteous anger maintain lower blood pressure and secrete less cortisol, known as the stress hormone, than people who respond with fear or bottle up their feelings.
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1210341/Being-bad-good-Playing-blaring-rock-music-skipping-housework-actually-boost-health.html#ixzz0Px2vIUVg
We’ll all have a good laugh when he strokes out.
Posted by: Grant | September 2nd, 2009 08:25
I am listening to a few minutes of that service and I am recoiling at it, also. This may be judging but I hear such arrogance in his tone. I suppose I really don’t know what he is feeling in his heart, but it just sounds that way to me.
Posted by: stacy | September 2nd, 2009 08:29
Who was the fruit loop that “blessed” you with the first email?
Posted by: Eric | September 2nd, 2009 13:42
I only made it through 20 minutes of the sermon- I used to have stomach problems during those opening two nights at school each year and during the whole week of Bible conference. The very thought of it coming made me tear up for weeks prior to returning to school. Wow. Salvation is about looking to Christ. Not about looking within- if we were good enough He wouldn’t have had to die. Life in Christ is not about avoiding sin- it’s about resting in His love- which will lead us away from sin- but avoiding sin isn’t an end in itself. that just leads to legalism. Goodness- I’m so glad I never have to attend another service from there ever again!! And- you did not ruin any students lives~ as an RPA major~ I can say hands down you were my favorite teacher:)
Posted by: julie krumm | September 2nd, 2009 18:42
God is so good, and so faithful, and so freeing. I’m pretty sure he thinks Steve Brown is hilarious.
Posted by: skerrib | September 3rd, 2009 12:13