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He shall cover thee with His feathers.

Ladies Retreat

He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth [shall be thy] shield and buckler. Psalm 91:4 

Two years ago I was here—still glowing from God’s tender care for me through the most difficult and even despairing moment in my life. Let me explain. 

As many of you know, my daughter Elise was born to Heaven on July 7, 2001. That event sent me into God’s arms with questions and tears where the only prayer I knew to pray was “Help me!” I questioned nearly everything I had assumed about the Faith, but still I could readily feel God protecting me under His wings. While I endured the roller coaster of grief—from denial through guilt and self-pity and bargaining to sadness and finally acceptance—and learned from it that God was always lovingly in control, the second week of February 2003 was probably my lowest moment. I had had two additional miscarriages since Elise was born – that’s four pregnancy losses total. Satan attacked me with three horrible thoughts: 

  • I had overheard friends who had recently discovered they were pregnant express that they were scared to be pregnant “because of everything Camille had been through.” I was struck with the thought, “What am I now a discouragement to people? Great.” When you’ve had such horrible loss, you begin to think you’re a jinx and sometimes innocent comments like this only confirm those ugly thoughts.
  • Then Grant and I went to Wal-mart for some essentials. Nothing extravagant—deodorant, light bulbs. It was $42 total. And we couldn’t buy it because our debit card didn’t go through. For a lousy couple of bags of nothing really, we had to walk away. We later discovered we only had $37 in our checking account. And that same day we got a bill for some recent medical procedures and tests for me—over $3000.
  • I was smocking a dress to celebrate the adoption of a new family member. Scott and Chris Lining were adopting Janae after a long difficult illness for Chris and an arduous adoption journey. As I sat there poring over the patterns, relishing the planning of colors, thread, flowers, pearls, and fabric, Satan hit me right between the eyes with, “What kind of a fool do you think you are? Do you ever think you’re going to make one of these for your own child? Hmph. You’re a fool.”

 

This all happened on a Thursday. All these ugly thoughts and events coincided on that one day. By Friday night, when I was finally alone, I threw myself down in tears before the Lord, begging for Him to help. I finally prayed, “Okay, Lord. I am throwing this all in your lap. I need something. I don’t know what I need. But I need something. So I’m just going to assume that you are going to give it to me by Sunday night at church. . . . And btw, I promise that I won’t second guess it. I won’t question it. I’m just going to take your message at face value.” 

There’s something about having all this education. You begin to question everything. You say to yourself, “That’s just what you want to hear, silly. That’s not what God’s saying.” So God was prompting me, I believe, to put aside my critiquing muscles and listen like a child. 

I remember walking into choir practice that Sunday night. I prayed, “Lord, help Danny as he’s preparing. Remember, I’m listening. So give him what I need to hear.” 

God had better plans. He didn’t wait until church. He started in choir. I sat away from my friends where I’d be tempted to giggle my way through. You know how chatty we sopranos can be. And He sat me right in the middle, right in front of Dr. Cook—who was in a bit of a chatty mood himself that night. We started with “None like you,” and I felt like God was softening me up for the next song: “And the Father will sing over you with joy.” 

You all remember that song? It’s based on Zephaniah 3:14, 17. 

And the Father will sing over you in joy!He will take delight in whom he loves.Is that a choir I hear singing the praises of God?No, the Lord God Himself is exulting o’er you in song! 

Wow. Warren amplified these words a little bit further. God rejoices over us? He SINGS over us? My word!! God is encouraged over me! What a cure to worrying about what others might fear from what God has carried you through. 

The song goes on.

 

My soul will make its boast in God,For He has answered all my cries.His faithfulness to me is as sure as the dawn of a new day. 

Sing, O daughter of Zion, with all of your heart!Cast away fear for you have been restored!Put on a garment of praise as on a festival day.Join with the Father in glorious, jubilant song. 

The Holy Spirit struck me with the thought, “Honey, that dress that you’re making for Janae. That’s a garment of praise! You’re celebrating the fact that she’s home. See what I’m saying here—I’m telling you to get ready to put on your own happy garments. Get ready. The happy is coming. The festival day is coming. Just not yet.” 

I wept through the entire choir practice. My poor sweet husband ran to my side afterward, but it was really all good. God was showing me His message. He was whispering to me His comfort while always underneath His care. 

Whew! I was done, I thought. Okay. Wow. That was good. Okay. We can move on. The service began, and I realized Danny wasn’t preaching. It was Jerry Sivinsky. Hmmm. . . . okay. 

He preached on prayer. Maybe you remember the sermon? He preached on praying specifically and confidently and with even a “deadline” of sorts. But get this—he had preached the exact same sermon at school in November. Huh. That’s certainly God trying to get my attention, so I knew I needed to listen. 

But that was hard. You know, we pray so timidly. We ask as if to say “if that’s okay” and “don’t want to bother you.” Jerry was telling us something different. He was describing a boldness—like a child who marches up to her Father and asks, “Daddy, may I?” My critical muscles started to flex. “That’s not what God means.” But I told them to cut it out. I had to. 

The next week, I sat down and wrote this prayer through tears and shaking hands. I was scared to even write it. I asked the Lord: 

1)      To continue to carry us through these hardships so that we could feel His presence.2)      To take care of our finances in a timely manner.3)      To . . . . [and this is the one that made me so scared] give us a normal, healthy, screaming baby by the end of Christmas vacation. 

I knew He could do the first one. That’s a metaphysical request. No big whoop. The second? I’ve heard him do miraculous things with school bills and such. I knew He could do that. But that last one. . . . to be honest, I was thinking “Christmas” when I wrote “the end of Christmas vacation.” But I was giving God a few more weeks there—just in case He needed the later deadline. 

That scared me. In order for that to happen, there would be so much that would have happen “just so.” 1)      My surgery would have to go smoothly without incident. 2)      My recovery would have to be easy.3)      The doc would have to give me the go-ahead on my second cycle after the surgery.4)      We’d have to conceive.5)      That pregnancy would stick and be viable.6)      I would carry that baby through to a live birth. 

That’s a lot. I remember sitting in that paper dress in my doctor’s office for my post-op follow-up. My incisions were fine and everything was healing well. I asked, “When can we go ahead and try to conceive?” He hesitated, “Well, you need to wait one more cycle. . . . Oh, here’s a phone call. I need to take it. Just a sec.” 

Sigh. . . . I laid there on the exam table and prayed, “Okay, Lord. You’ve got it worked out. I know that. I’m bummed about this, I just want you to know. But I know this is best.” 

The doctor came back in and said while thumbing through my massive chart, “You know, there’s really no need for you to wait. You can go ahead and start this next cycle.” 

YIPPEE!! And the next step was starting to take the baby aspirin and the folic acid and such which I started the Friday night of the Ladies Retreat two years ago. In the next few months, God reduced my medical bills to $320—we could manage that—and the next Fall, the University FINALLY gave us a very generous raise. And as you all know, three days before Christmas our precious little screamer, Isaac, was born. In fact, he screamed a little too early which is why he had to stay in the NICU for a few days. I’m still tickled that God heard my prayer for before Christmas even though I officially wrote down “the end of Christmas vacation.” 

I love this metaphor of “under his wings” because it’s a maternal metaphor. God is quite flexible in how He describes Himself, and He isn’t worried about narrow roles. And it says that He’s protecting us instinctively. He’s holding us very, very, very close to Him when danger is near. So close that He knows the intimate and even unspoken and unwritten desires of our hearts. He wants to give them to us. He’s not maniacal—dangling a carrot at the end of a string in order to watch us dance at His command. He’s not locking us up in our rooms when we have strong and difficult feelings. God doesn’t do time-outs; He does time-ins. He draws us close, rocks us to sleep, carries us all the day long. 

Answering my prayer and giving me this little life to enjoy is proof to me of how much God loves me and how closely He listens. But loving this little life has also taught me what that love is like. When I comfort him through teething, clean yet another explosion in his pants, giggle at his imitating Daddy brushing his teeth, and instinctively protect him under my wings, I think I get a better glimpse at how lovingly, persistently, and generously God loves us. 

He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust.

1 thought on “He shall cover thee with His feathers.

  1. So you showed up as a recommendation on my google reader and I’ve been moseying around, reading here and there for a little while. Your description of your daughter Elise’s birth was heartbreaking.

    Then I read this, and it went right to the heart of what I’ve been struggling with lately. Not infant loss but the question of whether- at 35- I will ever find someone to make a life with and even have the opportunity to try to have children. I’ve been begging God for something, a reassurance or a way to trust Him even though I have a hard time finding hope right now. I needed to read this, so thank you for sharing it.

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